I would say it’s actually a lot easier to feel lonely in a bigger city like Chicago. There are so many people, restaurants, and places to explore that you would think everyone is on the go. On the contrary, I’ve witnessed a lot of lonely people on my ventures to big cities like New York and LA. But I’ve actually managed to meet some really great friends.
On my first day at work, I met two other coworkers my age, Claire and Ella. One started a week earlier and one started on June 1st with me. All of us had lunch together every day, often in nearby restaurants or the basement which is full of eateries.
We soon realized that after rent, food, and work clothes (the best excuse to buy clothes), our salary would wither quickly, so after two weeks of eating out and spending ten dollars a day on lunch, we began packing lunches.
Since we were all the same age, it was nice to have acquaintances and luckily, three of us girls clicked extremely well. We worked 9 to 5 and eventually we became so close that we would spend every waking minute together. But after one month of interning, they both left to see their families for the summer and I was left with the constant cycle of helping other interns adjust.
This is the view from my office… 🙂
Now that I have a new and very outgoing coworker who sits next to me, I’ve been laughing more and meeting more people. I often hang out with his girlfriend and friends. One of them is teaching me how to play bass, which I never thought was cool, but now it’s one of my favorite new past times.
After two months, I still haven’t brought myself to go to a meet-up. I just have this lurking feeling that there will be a ton of people there to find a partner or people desperate to find friends. I’m not brave enough to be set up with a guy, much less friends. How awkward is it introducing yourself to someone with the intent of becoming best friends? Or being like, ‘let’s grab dinner sometime! since we both know we will be cuddling with our sofa pillows in front of our TVs shoving handfuls of popcorn into our mouths.’
But a couple weeks ago I went to a school alumni meet up for people in our area of study. The meet up was small and I’m glad I went because everyone was nice and professional and I think some of them would genuinely like to help me out with my future endeavors.
I also joined a volleyball league that I had in the back of my mind since I first passed the beautiful beaches along Lake Michigan. Even though I’m on the recreational league, it’s the level of competitive fun that I love. All four guys and four girls on the team are somewhat new to Chicago, ranging from 22 to 28. We always go to a bar after games and realized that we’re all still figuring out what we want to do with out lives and have realized that graduating college doesn’t mean we know what we’re doing or that we’re ready to settle, but rather, ready to go on bigger adventures by throwing ourselves into new cities where we don’t know anyone and start doing childhood sports again.